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Why you do it...
I would like to hear from the surrogate mothers on why and how they made the decision to become a surrogate mother. Was there an event in your personal life (such as witnessing a friend struggle with infertility) that led you down this path, or was there some other reason to get involved in this community? Share your stories and your reasons why it is your calling to be a surrogate. I'd be interested in learning about all the different reasons that you are all here today.
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Permalink Reply by Cara on -
My Aunt (mom's sister) married later in life and then struggled to conceive and never did. Watching her as a teen really impacted me, it instilled in me a compassion for those not able to have their own children. Once I had my son and the pregnancy (and water labor) was very enjoyable for me, I did some minimal research on surrogacy and mentioned it to hubby and we kept it in the back of our minds. Our daughter unexpectedly suprised us, but I really enjoyed that pregnancy as well. Pretty soon after she was born we knew we needed to put our own family on hold for awhile, prehaps indefinately. At that point I looked into surrogacy more seriously and here I am!
-Cara (GS to L&B edd 11.27)
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Permalink Reply by Sara K-W on -
for me it was a few things....
1)I come from a relatively small family, both my parents were only children, so it was just me and my half-brother...so I knew I always wanted to have a big family. My husbands family is huge, so that kinda helped balance me out, and now that I have my own 2 kids I feel complete. I can't imagine not having them, especially because of something I couldn't control like infertility. So this is how I knew I could help someone to feel that "complete" feeling that I have.
2)My husband remembers his parents struggling when he was young through several failed pregnancies. He was born and then 3 yrs later his only surviving brother, but he remembers his mother having 2 miscarriages when he was 5, (one of which was triplets at 6 months) and then his baby brother born when he was 7 with several severe defects. He only survived for 6 days. He remembers the loss, and was terrified that the same thing might happen to us, but I conceived and carried with no problems at all, and have 2 very healthy kids.
so that's why. I just really want to help someone get their own Happily Ever After...we all deserve one.
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Permalink Reply by Tiffany Staving on -
Hi I recently started wanting to become a surrogate mother due to several things. One being my cousin, she was 6 months pregnant with a boy, and got into a car accident. She went to the hospital and they ran tests and found a rare illness. They told her they were going to induce her, if not then her and her baby would die. Basically her liver was failing. So they induced her, the baby lived for 2 hours then sadly passed away. It tore my heart to pieces. The second reason I have a beauitful 9 month old daughter, and she has changed my life in so many ways. Everyone loves her shes such a wonderful baby to be around. She has brought my parents back together, they are in love with each other again. I couldnt image life without her. I loved the whole experience being pregnant and giving birth. I want to help people who cant experience that, and that want a child so much. Children are so amazing. Another reason is ive been reading alot of stories about how people have tried and tried, and then finally they are pregnant then something bad happens. I couldnt image going threw that. They want a child so much but cant have one. I want to help them as much as possible
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Permalink Reply by GinaF on -
I became a surrogate to help a family member. It started out almost as a joke at a baby shower for another family member. By the time I left the shower I had quietly (seru=iously) offered to carry for her. It snowballed from there and now they have a beautiful little girl.
That experience was a great one for myself and even my hubby and kids. It made me want to do it again so here I am a couple years later and still embroiled in the world of surrogacy.
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Permalink Reply by Alison on -
I saw numerous friends of mine going through infertility, miscarriages, and stillbirths. It was heartbreaking for me to even witness, so I cannot imagine their pain. It's always been in my heart to help others, not just through surrogacy but otherwise. But once I learned of surrogacy and egg donation as a teenager, I told my DH while we were dating that I'd want to do one or both after we had our own children.
When I had my DD a few years ago, a friend suffered a late term stillbirth with her own child. After going through numerous infertility treatments, they were having their blessing and then it was ripped away just like that. That experience sort of cemented it for me that I had to help others.
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